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	<title>Comments on: Why bother calling it a &#8217;shelter&#8217;?</title>
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		<title>By: PeonInChief</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-360020</link>
		<dc:creator>PeonInChief</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Oct 2008 16:47:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>As someone who moved to a community I didn't want to live in to keep my three cats, I guess I should be able to turn up my nose at those who didn't do that.  But I can't.  I had a lot of other things going for me: no children, good credit(important for tenants seeking pet-friendly housing), a husband who could move his job easily (our primary income).  Had we not had all of these things going for us, we'd have been in bad trouble.  People don't give up 10-year-old cats because they're irresponsible; they do it because they have no choice.  And as we should see from the present economic situation, it has nothing to do with "personal responsibility," but lack of political power.  Compare, for instance, the situation of a typical foreclosed homeowner and that of the head of AIG.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As someone who moved to a community I didn&#8217;t want to live in to keep my three cats, I guess I should be able to turn up my nose at those who didn&#8217;t do that.  But I can&#8217;t.  I had a lot of other things going for me: no children, good credit(important for tenants seeking pet-friendly housing), a husband who could move his job easily (our primary income).  Had we not had all of these things going for us, we&#8217;d have been in bad trouble.  People don&#8217;t give up 10-year-old cats because they&#8217;re irresponsible; they do it because they have no choice.  And as we should see from the present economic situation, it has nothing to do with &#8220;personal responsibility,&#8221; but lack of political power.  Compare, for instance, the situation of a typical foreclosed homeowner and that of the head of AIG.</p>
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		<title>By: The OTHER Pat</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346578</link>
		<dc:creator>The OTHER Pat</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 18:35:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>"Victim blame" is related to something called "The Just World Hypothesis" - the idea that the world is just, and that bad things "happen for a reason".  Therefore, if something bad happens to someone, it must be their fault - they must have done something to bring it on.

Here's an article about it:

http://www.scu.edu/ethics/publications/iie/v3n2/justworld.html</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Victim blame&#8221; is related to something called &#8220;The Just World Hypothesis&#8221; - the idea that the world is just, and that bad things &#8220;happen for a reason&#8221;.  Therefore, if something bad happens to someone, it must be their fault - they must have done something to bring it on.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s an article about it:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.scu.edu/ethics/publications/iie/v3n2/justworld.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.scu.edu/ethics/publ.....world.html</a></p>
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		<title>By: Shannon Watts</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346562</link>
		<dc:creator>Shannon Watts</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 17:35:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Often in life we are forced to do things we don't like (treating drug addictions, firing employees, punishing children/animals, killing unwanted pets).  Some of these activities are far worse than others but they all cause negative feelings in both parties.  Most people are able to reconcile the painful task by understanding its for the greater good.  At some point, we get overwhelmed by having to be the bad guy and we become bitter and start taking it out on others.  When we find ourselves in that situation, its time to step down and let someone else do the dirty work for a little while.  In the meantime, we should find an activity that restores our faith in the system so we can come back with a renewed spirit and perform our work to the best of our abilities.  

I can see where this would be a serious problem in shelter work.  If you become burnt out by killing animals but don't have another occupation to use for a break, where do you go to renew your spirit?  Obviously retiring to the front desk where you take out your anger on the customers is not a good plan, but have to keep working to support your family.  Tough situation.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Often in life we are forced to do things we don&#8217;t like (treating drug addictions, firing employees, punishing children/animals, killing unwanted pets).  Some of these activities are far worse than others but they all cause negative feelings in both parties.  Most people are able to reconcile the painful task by understanding its for the greater good.  At some point, we get overwhelmed by having to be the bad guy and we become bitter and start taking it out on others.  When we find ourselves in that situation, its time to step down and let someone else do the dirty work for a little while.  In the meantime, we should find an activity that restores our faith in the system so we can come back with a renewed spirit and perform our work to the best of our abilities.  </p>
<p>I can see where this would be a serious problem in shelter work.  If you become burnt out by killing animals but don&#8217;t have another occupation to use for a break, where do you go to renew your spirit?  Obviously retiring to the front desk where you take out your anger on the customers is not a good plan, but have to keep working to support your family.  Tough situation.</p>
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		<title>By: The OTHER Pat</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346549</link>
		<dc:creator>The OTHER Pat</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 17:16:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>"Isn’t it just as hurtful (and I’m certain, as ineffective) when those same shelter workers hear from the public that they are detested for 'doing what I would never do' which is to kill/euthanize animals?"

No, because I don't think a lot of the public blames the shelter workers for the killing.  Rather, I think much of the public shares the perception that the shelter workers are placed into a situation where they are left with no other choice than to kill the dogs and cats brought in because of the "negligence" of "those irresponsible pet owners".

"That’s like opening up a drug rehab center offering services to drug addicts and then getting angry at your clients for being drug-addicted."

Actually, I'm sure that happens.  Just like my father used to get angry at us kids for the "necessity" of punishing us, and then his anger over "having" to punish us often caused him to punish us even more.  It's a weird little cycle, but it happens.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Isn’t it just as hurtful (and I’m certain, as ineffective) when those same shelter workers hear from the public that they are detested for &#8216;doing what I would never do&#8217; which is to kill/euthanize animals?&#8221;</p>
<p>No, because I don&#8217;t think a lot of the public blames the shelter workers for the killing.  Rather, I think much of the public shares the perception that the shelter workers are placed into a situation where they are left with no other choice than to kill the dogs and cats brought in because of the &#8220;negligence&#8221; of &#8220;those irresponsible pet owners&#8221;.</p>
<p>&#8220;That’s like opening up a drug rehab center offering services to drug addicts and then getting angry at your clients for being drug-addicted.&#8221;</p>
<p>Actually, I&#8217;m sure that happens.  Just like my father used to get angry at us kids for the &#8220;necessity&#8221; of punishing us, and then his anger over &#8220;having&#8221; to punish us often caused him to punish us even more.  It&#8217;s a weird little cycle, but it happens.</p>
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		<title>By: Joy</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346543</link>
		<dc:creator>Joy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 16:59:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>That’s like opening up a drug rehab center offering services to drug addicts and then getting angry at your clients for being drug-addicted.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>That’s like opening up a drug rehab center offering services to drug addicts and then getting angry at your clients for being drug-addicted.</p>
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		<title>By: Joy</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346540</link>
		<dc:creator>Joy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 16:54:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Isn’t it just as hurtful (and I’m certain, as ineffective) when those same shelter workers hear from the public that they are detested for “doing what I would never do” which is to kill/euthanize animals?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Isn’t it just as hurtful (and I’m certain, as ineffective) when those same shelter workers hear from the public that they are detested for “doing what I would never do” which is to kill/euthanize animals?</p>
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		<title>By: The OTHER Pat</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346531</link>
		<dc:creator>The OTHER Pat</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 16:37:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Because a lot of them are operating from a position of perceived moral superiority.  "I'm better than you because you're doing something I would NEVER do - you're giving up a pet!  Therefore, I'm justified in treating you with disgust and disdain because you're a morally repugnant human being!"

That's an attitude that just has to change.  Or - at the very least - the shelter community has to make sure that anyone who interacts with the public is not someone who has that attitude.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Because a lot of them are operating from a position of perceived moral superiority.  &#8220;I&#8217;m better than you because you&#8217;re doing something I would NEVER do - you&#8217;re giving up a pet!  Therefore, I&#8217;m justified in treating you with disgust and disdain because you&#8217;re a morally repugnant human being!&#8221;</p>
<p>That&#8217;s an attitude that just has to change.  Or - at the very least - the shelter community has to make sure that anyone who interacts with the public is not someone who has that attitude.</p>
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		<title>By: Joy</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346513</link>
		<dc:creator>Joy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 15:53:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Why do so many shelter/rescue workers seem personally offended when someone suggests they improve the manner in which they communicate with the pet-surrendering or even pet-adopting public?  Is it really all that challenging to just try to be a little more pleasant to the people using these services?  Why does it always come down to blame?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Why do so many shelter/rescue workers seem personally offended when someone suggests they improve the manner in which they communicate with the pet-surrendering or even pet-adopting public?  Is it really all that challenging to just try to be a little more pleasant to the people using these services?  Why does it always come down to blame?</p>
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		<title>By: Susan Cosby</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346455</link>
		<dc:creator>Susan Cosby</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 13:29:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>“...it would be healthier for no-kill advocates to acknowledge the flaws in their models - and set out to change them - then it would be to gloss over them and dismiss their critics as burned out.”

It would be healthier if traditional sheltering and rescue people acknowledge the flaws in their thinking and actions - and set out the change them - then it would be to gloss over them and dismiss their critics.

Or should we shelter workers all continue to strive for mediocrity?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>“&#8230;it would be healthier for no-kill advocates to acknowledge the flaws in their models - and set out to change them - then it would be to gloss over them and dismiss their critics as burned out.”</p>
<p>It would be healthier if traditional sheltering and rescue people acknowledge the flaws in their thinking and actions - and set out the change them - then it would be to gloss over them and dismiss their critics.</p>
<p>Or should we shelter workers all continue to strive for mediocrity?</p>
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		<title>By: 2CatMom</title>
		<link>http://www.petconnection.com/blog/2008/09/04/why-call-it-a-shelter/#comment-346257</link>
		<dc:creator>2CatMom</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Sep 2008 03:28:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Donna:

Never say never.  Every day you are able to get out of bed, go to a job that covers your expenses, and remain self sufficient is a good day.  Do you recognize that one little thing could change your life forever?

Perhaps you'll lose your job when your company moves, or maybe you'll be replaced by someone half your age at half the price.

And if your spouse works, what happens if you both lose your jobs?

Maybe you'll be walking home from church and you and your spouse will be hit by a drunk driver.  Your spouse is killed outright and you linger in a coma for 3 months.  The extensive medical expenses not covered by insurance leave you bankrupt.

Maybe you'll go your doctor for a minor sore throat and find out you have stage 3 lymph cancer.

Perhaps your spouse will leave you after 34 years of marriage after cleaning out all the bank accounts and running up all the credit card accounts.

Maybe your long hoped for child will be born with disabilities so numerous and profound that there isn't even a name for whats happening.


Think I'm making up a bunch of really outrageous events?  Every one of these tragedies have happened to friends and relatives and neighbors of mine and my parents in the LAST 1 YEAR.  

If you don't know what its like to be faced with these types of tragedies, count yourself lucky.  Instead of being judgmental try the following mantra; There but for the grace of 
G-d go I."

What people are telling you when they surrender an aminal is often the tip of the iceberg.  Sure there are irresponsible bad people, but regardless your job is to help the animal.  Leaving the judgment to a higher power.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Donna:</p>
<p>Never say never.  Every day you are able to get out of bed, go to a job that covers your expenses, and remain self sufficient is a good day.  Do you recognize that one little thing could change your life forever?</p>
<p>Perhaps you&#8217;ll lose your job when your company moves, or maybe you&#8217;ll be replaced by someone half your age at half the price.</p>
<p>And if your spouse works, what happens if you both lose your jobs?</p>
<p>Maybe you&#8217;ll be walking home from church and you and your spouse will be hit by a drunk driver.  Your spouse is killed outright and you linger in a coma for 3 months.  The extensive medical expenses not covered by insurance leave you bankrupt.</p>
<p>Maybe you&#8217;ll go your doctor for a minor sore throat and find out you have stage 3 lymph cancer.</p>
<p>Perhaps your spouse will leave you after 34 years of marriage after cleaning out all the bank accounts and running up all the credit card accounts.</p>
<p>Maybe your long hoped for child will be born with disabilities so numerous and profound that there isn&#8217;t even a name for whats happening.</p>
<p>Think I&#8217;m making up a bunch of really outrageous events?  Every one of these tragedies have happened to friends and relatives and neighbors of mine and my parents in the LAST 1 YEAR.  </p>
<p>If you don&#8217;t know what its like to be faced with these types of tragedies, count yourself lucky.  Instead of being judgmental try the following mantra; There but for the grace of<br />
G-d go I.&#8221;</p>
<p>What people are telling you when they surrender an aminal is often the tip of the iceberg.  Sure there are irresponsible bad people, but regardless your job is to help the animal.  Leaving the judgment to a higher power.</p>
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